The adage says you’re only as old as you feel, but it might be more accurate to say you’re only as old as you act.  Throughout most of history the word “immaturity” has had somewhat negative connotations when used to describe people, but more recently that perception has changed somewhat.  In fact, in some ways to be labeled as immature is something of which we’re sometimes discretely proud, since we think it gives us an appropriate cover for remaining a commitment-phobic single or to make decisions impulsively.  More specifically, it makes us feel young because we get to stretch our adolescent years and behaviors out far longer than expected.

It’s impossible to say for certain why the modern world’s concept of immaturity has changed, but I suspect it’s likely closely related to society’s obsession with holding on to youth.  After all, entire industries are dedicated exclusively to catering to our desire to stay young, what with the popularity of cosmetic surgeries, anti-aging serums, botox, etc.  Perhaps this new popularity of the “immature” lifestyle is yet another manifestation of this desire.

More specifically, immaturity in relationships is a more recent phenomenon.  There’s no longer a stigma to being commitment-phobic, and in many social circles choosing to settle down with a long-term romantic partner is actually something to be proud of.  This immaturity in relationships even extends to the professional world, as indicated by a marked increase in the incidence of quarter-life crises.

As recently as the turn of the most recent century, immature adults did not enjoy the acceptance of their immaturity that they do today.  After all, the media frequently portrays immature adults as likeable characters – consider, for example, the popularity of the long-running hit show Friends or the antics of celebutantes like Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian.

The question, of course, is whether our new concept of immaturity is having a positive or negative effect.  To label it in such black and white ways, however, is neither a simple nor a practical thing to do.  For instance, this newfound acceptance of being able to act immaturely also gives us permission to keep our inner child alive!  Yet on the flipside, prolonged immaturity also brings with it an incredible amount of psychological stress, and the lack of emotional support due to the absence of strong relationships can often result in mental breakdowns.

Because you can experience both positives and negatives while clinging to either immaturity or full-blown adulthood, perhaps the best choice is to take the middle road.  In this way you’ll be able to feel young at heart while acting like the adult you truly are.